Ok you notice the repetition of No in this title…this also what can be heard at our house currently. Kaden’s favorite word and answer to every question is “No!” Even if he really wants it! Unless of course you ask him if he wants a cookie then it immediately is “Cookie? Yeah!” this word is slowly making me crazy. I read in my What to Expect the First Year that this is a normal stage and they will soon out grow it. The problem is it could last 2 more years! AHHHH!!!
We have already moved to almost daily swats and/or timeouts. I don’t like doing this but I can see in his eye that he knows exactly what he is doing. He will look at me when doing something he shouldn’t be and then said a defiant “No!” he gets a three count and will sometimes straighten up but when he doesn’t he gets a swat. The power behind it would barely injure a gnat but he can be quite dramatic. He has started getting smarter though..I have seen him twice in the last few days swing his arm back like he was going to hit and then he will smile big and say “tickle, tickle” instead.
Stinker…tried and true.
I know you can’t imagine this face acting that way….but trust me…he doesn’t just look like Dada ;)
For a while now we have not allowed him to get things by screaming or pointing he must and can say “please.” He also must say “down” to get down from his chair. He does well with these but will still sometimes throw a fit when put at the table to eat. We have found ignoring him works well when he is screaming and he will soon be eating completely forgetting that he didn’t’ want up there in the first place. I also can’t stand throw yourself on the floor fits. He will lie down and start to fit, an immediate three count starts and he either gets up or gets a swat. 2 out of 3 times that his happens he will just get up but the other times he gets the swat. He will figure it out eventually.
The whole process is of course made more difficult by the fact that we are not the primary caregivers. Sadly he spends more time at Mrs. Joyce’s house than with us…..being a working mom. Super sucks! (Sorry had to throw that in). Luckily he hasn’t started sassing there until recently so hopefully now we can all get on the same page. HMM……perhaps that is why he has cried the last 2 days when I picked him up…that’s the breaking my heart part……He knows Mommy isn’t afraid to swat. Well don’t worry….I have now empowered Mrs. Joyce to swat and timeout as she deems necessary. Perhaps Two “Mama’s” will be better than 1!
Here is my dilemma…how do I stop the “no”? If you have any advice, help me out! I might go crazy if it continues for 2 more years! I love that sweet boy and want him to stay sweet. I would hate for him to be the kindergartener that drives some poor teacher crazy!
Dear Lord, please give us the strength to be good parents. Give us patience and wisdom to survive these early terrible 2’s. Help us to be consistent so that we can get these unwanted behaviors under control. Amen